PLOS One has a published study highlighting Sexual Exploration in America

Indiana University School of Public Health and Bloomington Center for Sexual Health Promotion researchers realized sexual appeal from an integrated survey of 2,000 men and women. The data highlights sexual interests, satisfaction and how they foster relationship happiness.

 

Many examined sex behaviors helped to determine the full range of sexual fantasies that inspire satisfaction. The list is long but highly inclusive. Actions such as cunnilingus, fellatio, sex in public places, ejaculation on your sex partner, role-playing, and the like were all indicated. However, despite the diversity of sexual behaviors experienced or imagined, people’s desire for intimacy ranked highest.

Intimacy is the closeness that comes after the sex act is finished. If this element is present, desire builds before, during and after such an intimate act. Kissing, hugging, expressions of familiarity, a romantic atmosphere, whispering to each other, all garnered more intense sexual desire.

 

 

The survey did list many of the fantasies men imagined

Here is a small taste:

  • Vaginal intercourse
  • Oral sex
  • Anal sex
  • Wearing sexy underwear or lingerie
  • Sex in a public place
  • Partner tied up
  • Licking partners feet
  • Masturbating each other
  • Playful whipping or spanking
  • Having sex with an unknown person
  • Indulging in swinging with another couple
  • Threesome sex
  • Wearing clothing associated with opposite sex
  • Watching your partner dress or undress without them knowing
  • Having interracial sex

Most of the sex activities on the survey participants had acted out.

Regardless of the sexual fantasy and desire for it, participants indicated the importance of openly discussing with one another sexual passions, interests and other new ways of being romantic and affectionate.

Both men and women want to feel desirable. Men can appreciate the occasional dominant female partner as a telltale sign of this feeling. Men indicate sometimes they want to be a passive partner rather than the pursuer. A man experiences a heightened sense of desire knowing that he is wanted.

 

Women as well need to know their partner craves them

Apparently, a sincere encounter inspires more desire and satisfaction. Additionally, honest, meaningful moments following sex build partner happiness. It can’t be stated enough how much a person senses their life’s vitality from intense, intimate, and elevated connections. It is through these experiences that our happiness filters into every area of life.

 

 

Another concept significant to partner satisfaction is respect and nurture. When a woman expresses through specific words and actions respect for her male partner, his reaction to keep and protect her intensifies. In response to his protection and security, women develop nurturing feelings. These feelings become active during sexual intimacy and gain power as the relationship deepens. However, if respect is lost, loss of intimacy will soon follow as well.

 

Intimacy disappears when respect fails

Another study informs, women more typically feel excited by the mere idea of emotional connections. Meanwhile, men can look at body parts of interest and feel aroused. Admittedly, the experience of commitment is intricately different for both men and women.

Even with all the sex studies out there, men and women remain a mystery to each other. There are no two people who are precisely the same. Preferences differ and change with time and maturity. The most we can hope for, is freedom within our relationships to express our desires and indeed be heard and respected.

References: PLOS One, Business Insider, Science Daily
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