Helicopter “Tiger Moms” Hurt Kids

Helicopter “Tiger Moms” Hurt Kids

Helicopter "Tiger Moms" Hurt Kids

A National University of Singapore study exposed how helicopter “Tiger Moms” hurt kids


In a paper released in June 2017, Professor Ryan Hong studied 236 children over a 5-year period. What he discovered about over-intrusive parenting styles was horrifying.

Parents who hover over every aspect of their child’s life, expecting perfection, make their child mentally ill. Such parenting styles lead to increased anxiety, depression and suicidal thinking.


What is Helicopter Parenting?

Helicopter parenting became known as such when alluded to in Dr. Haim Ginott’s 1969 book “Between Parent & Teenager“. An interviewed teen commented, “Mother hovers over me like a helicopter“.

It is when parents decide to live toxically vicariously through their children. Parents will monitor every aspect of a child’s development and education to suit themselves. They stifle a child’s unique potential in order to realize their own outrageous expectations.

Even university educators scoff at the practice

Such parents will even interfere with their adult children’s tertiary education. Some report instances where parents will harass lecturers. They will demand involvement in the progress and results of their adult child.

It isn’t just the baby boomer generation in the West that is notorious for controlling every aspect of their child’s life

Parents in China and India have high expectations for their offspring too. In Japan, there are high instances of suicide in young people who fail to meet their parent’s unreasonable expectations.

So why do some parents believe they can determine the entire life of their child? Most believe they have pure intentions. They want their children to have an easy adulthood. Such parents define an easy adulthood as having a high earning career. They believe the only path to such a career is via a military style childhood.


Parenting and Cultural Expectation

In some countries, it is also the cultural expectation that you will parent your children in this style. But studies like the aforementioned, and others, beg to differ. This style of parenting is toxic and even deadly, as seen in Japan.

Law School Professor Amy Chua shot to infamy when she published her book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother“. Chua feared that her own daughters would descend into the poverty her own parents raised her in.

So she decided to raise them with overwhelming strictness. She controlled and defined every moment of their education and free time.

Chua claims that she was overly controlling because she believed that they could be high achievers.


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