Join the cultural promotion of black and brown women and girls everywhere
Social media and others have created a mainstream niche for black women and girls. You can be sure there is one for black men and boys as well. With organizations like Black Girl Magic, and Black Girls Rock, and Black motherhood, and Black beauties, the list goes on; the promotion isn’t about positive image, it’s about black pride which stems from the EGO.
This demographic isn’t interested in equality or harmony in society. No, Blacks want to stand out. They want to be special, better than everyone else. Not only do they want to feel that they are more special than everyone else, but they also insist that everyone believe that very same ideal. Indeed, receiving validation from media, foundations and any organization that will extend approval only adds more fuel to their fire.
I am a mother of three children. Each one of my pregnancies were different, and I have struggled and continued to grow and expand in my role as a mother, and in other roles, I must play out in my life. However, my confidence stems from knowing I am awesome. Not because I am black, or white, or purple. It is because my soul is awesome. I don’t need to label myself as black to be someone special or important.
Because I am female, I am capable of certain things. One of them is motherhood. I’m not better or worse than any other female just because I am black. Every healthy woman is capable of having a baby. Skin color doesn’t decide who gets pregnant, how you carry your baby or how you deliver it.
Blacks need to separate being black from every detail in our lives
How does being black make me a better mother? Doesn’t it? It doesn’t even make me a better human being. It only defines my skin color. That’s all.
Every socioeconomic group, every culture, every race struggles with poverty, hunger, homelessness, self-worth, and confidence. Being black doesn’t make life worse. It’s simply the color of skin. Once we take our focus off black being a problem, it will cease to be. It’s because we focus on it that it remains an issue. If we want to exert black power, all we need to do is focus on what we have in common with other human beings, not what makes us different. We sustain our black discrimination. If we wanted it to end, we would not bolster it’s so called ideals.
This article is supposed to be about black motherhood. But being black and being a mother are two completely separate issues. Let’s not blur the lines like everyone else likes to do to create a discrimination issue or have a place to insert black ego.
Motherhood has its challenges
The first trimester is usually spent feeling sick most of the time. Again, it doesn’t matter your skin color. Illness doesn’t discriminate. Many mothers begin to feel better during the second trimester and can begin to enjoy the notion and feeling of something growing inside that one day will become a real person. It’s exciting and scary at the same time.
Yes, finding clothes that fit or look decent is a challenge. But again, the only reason skin color would be a concern about clothes is that different colors look better against different skin tones. That has nothing to do with race but preference. We all need to wear clothes that make us feel good, no matter if you’re red, or yellow.
Black organizations encourage images that resonate with Black mothers, black women, pregnant black women, etc. Taking pride in anything other than your true self is a tribute to insecurity. Everyone should feel good about who they are because of their life experiences, choices and all they have overcome. This is the process of life for every human being. Take a look inside instead of focusing on the exterior. You might find, you don’t need any more legitimization.
There are many models in all cultures of icons who have heralded and inspire. Everyone can learn something from someone, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute. Race is not a factor here. Find your center and focus on your soul, not your body. We all came to experience life and life’s challenges.
Black pride is an ego trip. It’s time to get over it!